When You’ve Outgrown the Old: How to Cope With Change

When You’ve Outgrown the Old: How to Cope With Change

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Change requires growth, growth can be uncomfortable……..when you leave old habits behind, you begin to outgrow old behaviors, old friends, old spaces. Suddenly nothing old seems to fit. For some people this is an awkward time. They find themselves gravitating back to the familiar. Even though they’ve started to change, they desire to go back to what they once knew. This my friend is exactly what that looks like. Trying to force a brand new you into an old space. Those spaces no longer fit for a reason, those friends no longer understand for a reason, you have changed. Embrace the change, find new lodgings, new friends, hew spaces that allow you to be the new you. 
Many individuals I work with struggle with this stage. They feel uncomfortable in their new sober skin. They have to adjust to the new person they’re becoming, and others have to adjust to them as well. Some must  move away from old associations, find new ones that lead the lives they are striving to live. It may mean cleaning out your phone, purging your friends lists or finding a new home. For many the change is so uncomfortable that they seek to go back to the devil they knew. Don’t let fear be a stumbling block, fear like change can be good.  “The cave you fear to enter, holds the treasure you seek” – Joseph Campbell. You can’t be a kitten forever! Change is growth and growth is good. There’s a more comfortable space waiting for you, you just have to find your way to it. Erica Jong says it well “I have accepted fear as a part of life – specifically the fear of change… I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back….” My friends, go ahead and change the things that need to be changed in your life and when you do, you’ll find new friends, new behaviors, and new spaces that fit you!



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